All of us have experienced or are still living with dysfunctional relationships. I spent a few sessions with a mentoring client once who was spinning their wheels trying to grasp abundant life while a root of unforgiveness from a parental relationship was still growing in their soul.
That doesn't work. I can't name anyone God has prospered who's still waiting for restitution from the hands of man. Plus, I know much about unforgiveness - because of my personal history - and what it does to hinder our access to Holy Spirit's power. I want too much; I can't afford not to forgive.
Dysfunctional relationships, even divinely ordained ones, don't glorify God. It's not God's will that there's strife day in and day out; matter of fact He has told us in the written Word that's demonic. God relationships are peaceful relationships. Therefore, we cannot use a divine connection as an excuse to continue in dysfunction. Steps have to be taken to bring deliverance and healing and that starts with at least one of the parties deciding to forgive and receive God's assistance.
If any of your high-stakes relationships are dysfunctional seek a mentor's assistance. You can also pray the following:
Holy Spirit, I thank You that I can call out to You and You'll answer me and show me great and mighty things. I ask by faith in this Word and in Jesus' name that you give me Your vision of what this relationship should look like. I reject my or any other vision for our relationship and receive Yours only. I confess and repent of my immaturity and sin and receive Your forgiveness. I desire to forgive _____ and myself for what's happened. I decree a shift in our relationship as I walk out Your vision for us in Christ's strength. I declare this by faith in Jesus' name. Amen.
Expect a vision or dream to follow giving you His vision for your relationship and then do your part to line it up with His will. Success and abundance will follow.